It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter. Proverbs 25:2

Many people want to define God’s love based on their experiences and what they are going through. They will say, “If God is love then why does He let all these bad things happen? If God loves us why do we have to suffer, why are people sick and die? Why is there so much evil in the world, if God is love?” Some people want to define God according to human reasoning. Some even want to tell the Potter what type of pottery He should make. When people do not see the life they want or expected, then they will say God is unjust or God is not love.

The world says if God is love, He would not send anyone to hell. God’s integrity and righteousness demands the payment for sin which is death. It was the love of God that sent Jesus to die but it was the death at the cross that saved us from eternal destruction. God’s love could not be untrue to Himself and turn a blind eye to sin. The Holiness of God, demanded payment and Jesus made this payment in full, when He cried, “It is finished.”

The question of God’s love for us was answered at the Cross. The love of God was displayed at Calvary with the death of Jesus. God loved this world so much that He gave His only Son so that those who believed in Him should not perish for eternity. This is an awesome display of love. There is no greater love expressed than when a person lays down their life for their beloved. God’s love is defined by His sacrifice, His Son! God’s love is not measured by whether we are having a good day, living without struggles and finding favour in life circumstances. The matter was settled at Calvary!

The death of Jesus on the cross enabled God to forgive our sins and bring us back into a righteous standing with Him. A righteous God could not be true to Himself and fail to punish sin. The wages of sin is death and someone will die an eternal death in payment of sin. Jesus became sin on the cross so that He would pay the sin debt for all who will believe in Him and His truth. It was God’s love for us that sent Jesus to the cross. It was Jesus’ love displayed in that He laid down His life for us. The love of God and the Blood of Jesus speaks for all eternity of the love God has for us. God has settled the matter, nothing can separate us from the love of God and that my friend, is truth!

God’s love saw our need while we were still deep in our sins. Though we were at enmity with God in our own minds and actions, He paid the ransom to set us free from our enslavement to sin. Whether we want to acknowledge the conflict between good and evil in this fallen world system or not, we see the effect of the age long battle for the hearts and minds of people. The lie of the world says, “God is unjust, He cannot love.” Truth speaks, there is an enemy that wants to kill, steal and destroy the image bearers of God. Jesus came to show us the truth of our created purpose and destiny. We were created to be the image bearers of God our heavenly Father and to display His love on the earth.

John 18:37 “You are a king, then!” said Pilate. Jesus answered, “You say that I am a king. In fact, the reason I was born and came into the world is to testify to the truth. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.”

Remember, we need never again question the love of God or be defined by life experiences, our culture or society. The Blood of Jesus speaks for all eternity, the Love of the Father. It is when we rest in the completed work of Christ that we can press through life’s challenges and yes, even walk through the valley of grievous things, because nothing can separate us from the love God has for us.

1 John 4:9-11 In this the love of God was manifested toward, us that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. NKJV

1 John 3:1 Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! NKJV


Most people come to God and go to church for what they can get from God. They want a better life, a blessed family and to go to heaven when they die. That is part of a western world culture, to seek God, to be their genie in a bottle, their server; the one who waits on them and provides their every need. The truth of the Gospel says we must die to self, serve others and let the kingdom of God be in us, heaven on earth. Jesus told us die to self and follow Him, be like Him, be His disciple and show the love of God to a lost world.

There is a perverted gospel that will build a shrine to God and try to perform good deeds that may give the appearance of love but it is self-serving. Some people will perform to get blessings from God, favour and His protection. They come to God for what He can do for them; not for a changed life and to look like Christ. Some even preach a message to come to God for what He can do for them, for the riches, blessing and favour of God. Rather than speaking truth that we are loved by God and He died because we are His children who have value, purpose and God ordained destiny.

Jesus came to show us the way to the Father. We are to die to the fallen man; self-centeredness and to become as servants and live as His children. Young children submit and are obedient to authority. This is God’s call to everyone who is truly born again, to obey His Word. When people are not rooted in the truth of God’s love for them through Jesus, they will try to compensate by trying to earn God’s love, blessing and approval through performing deeds they think are good. When they fail to live up to the impossible standards, of their own righteousness, then they become condemned and believe they are failures.

It is when we are anchored in the truth of the gospel, and God’s love for us through Jesus, then we can enjoy the fellowship of God as a loving Father. His purpose is to transform us into the Image of His Son. If we do not rest on the completed work of Jesus and His righteousness, we may become overwhelmed by our sins and inability to change our behavior.
So often many people turn to pretending and performing. They start performing and working in the church or their community to gain acknowledgement and feel good about themselves. But often times they are constantly aware of their failures. Then comes the comparison- I am not as bad as those people; or the making of excuses- I am not really that bad. Often they will give reasons for their behavior. You do not know what was done to me or, what I have been through. Because of pride, people rarely want to admit they are sinful or fail, so they spin the situation in their favor.

Pride and the constant concern with self is the main reason many people never change their lives and never experience a true repentance. Repentance is a true turning from the old way of life to a new way of thinking and living. The only way to be free from pride is to die to self. We are called to be dead with Christ so that we shall live with Him.

Romans 6: 6 – 8 Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. For he that is dead is freed from sin. Now if we be dead with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him… KJV

So many people have fallen into the trap of pretending they are well or trying to perform good works to gain value and worth, but still only find themselves crushed by the weight and reality of their sin. It is only in the completed work of Jesus that we can rest our lives, die to self and be transformed to look like the love of God on the earth. Many people have a confession but God wants a transformation. Knowing the truth of God’s word and the power of the Holy Spirit gives us the integrity we need to live a life for the love of God and not for self.

Rest in this, Jesus died to put us in right standing and fellowship with God. He knew our created purpose, identity and Godly destiny. When we rest in the love God has for us we will begin to understand that nothing we do or fail to do will keep us from His love.

With true love there is true conversion. Conversion by definition is to bring over from one belief-view to another; to alter the physical nature or properties; to change from one form or function to another. All humanity is born with a corrupted mindset; it is what we receive from Adam after the fall. Through faith in Jesus we have salvation, which not only saves us from sin but makes us right with God. Receiving God’s love, forgiveness and restoration back to God, converts or changes the way we think of ourselves. We become a new creation, children of God. When we know who we are in Christ we will want to change our behavior.

The love of the Holy Spirit that lives in the true born again believer can be seen in our motivation, determination and self-control, and in the performance, accomplishments and the achieving of God’s love in the earth. God never lost sight of who we were created to be; His children and our created purpose; to reflect His love to one another and all creation.

Philippians 2:13 For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill His good purpose. NIV

The beginning of the true Christian conversion is recognizing God’s Holiness and Jesus’ love for us because He paid our sin debt. This allows that same love to flow from our lives to those who are lost. God did not wait until we became right; He made us righteous, just as we cannot wait for the unlovely to become loveable. While we were yet sinners Christ died for us and while they are still sinning we must die to self and show the love of God to others.

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. NIV

Conversion is the process all true believers go through after there is restoration and justification. Once we are restored to the family of God and are justified by the completed work of Christ on the cross, we begin a conversion from the old person of the current world beliefs and views, to God’s Kingdom principles and truths. The changes in our beliefs transform and alter our physical nature; we are changed from the former actions of living for self, to dying to our natural thoughts, feelings and emotions that we received from Adam’s fallen nature.

As our understanding and appreciation of God’s love for us through Jesus grows, so will our desire to please Him, to be like Him and to show His love to others. Salvation is a onetime occurrence. Once we truly accept Jesus Christ as our Saviour and Lord we are in the household of God. But conversion and transformation is a continuous process of renewing our minds to the way God thinks and a continuous process of dying to self and loving others as Christ loved us.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is- His good, pleasing and perfect will. NIV

As a true believer, our spirit man is made alive in Christ and the Holy Spirit is now living in us and yet sometimes our minds, bodies and habits remain the same. This is the conflict we need to resolve in the new believer, who has accepted Jesus as their Lord and Saviour and yet their natural tendencies are to respond in their old way of thinking. Their reasoning and thoughts of right or wrong and their very conscience has been molded by this fallen world system. To change their actions they must change the way they think. To be transformed into the image of God we must change our belief system to agree and line up with His. This is done by knowing Him, the only wise God our Saviour through His written word.

Remember, it is the love of God in us that changes the way we think and see things. The love God has for us, because of Jesus, changes the way we live our lives and see others. It is not by any works of our own but the power of God through the Holy Spirit working in us. We no longer see ourselves condemned, but free. Free from pride, free from self, free to be transformed into the love of God, which is displayed by our love for others, our joy, hope and peace, that we have in our lives and for others.

God, Who is love, brought forth from Himself, a creation of love, mankind. Mankind was made perfect in love, perfect in the image of God and was given dominion over all of God’s creation on the earth. They lived in perfect harmony with God, one another and all creation until the fall. At which time mankind was so marred they no longer looked like their creator but they took on the prideful and selfish nature of the one they obeyed; a fallen angel. Love came and redeemed that which was lost, our relationship with God and our created purpose. Now those who are in Christ Jesus are a new creation, a new people and are restored into the family of God.

We are changed from fallen and marred persons into the family of God through faith. Faith is belief and trust in God’s word. It is the very thing that was needed to keep us from falling into this sinful state and believing the lie of the enemy rather than listening and believing God. It was an act of disbelief in God’s word which said mankind was created in the image of God that caused them to disobey. Had mankind believed God, they would not have been tempted to believe the lie of Satan’s telling them they can be something they already were, like God.

Ephesians 2: 8-9 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God. Not of works, lest anyone should boast. NKJV

We experience God’s salvation personally and become representatives, agents and ambassadors of God’s redemption when we by faith, trust and believe in Jesus. Faith believes in the life, death, resurrection of Jesus, His atonement of our sin debt and our obedience to God’s word through the power of the Holy Ghost. When we have a saving faith in Jesus, we admit our sin and accept His payment for our sin debt and with gratitude we accept His forgiveness.

We rest totally on the completed work of Jesus. Jesus stands before God for us so that we can now come boldly to the throne of Grace, before God and be accepted as His beloved. What a love! What a love story! A love so strong, so deep, so committed, He would not leave us to ourselves in our depraved and marred state.

Psalm 31:14-15 But I trust in you, LORD; I say, You are my God. My times are in your hands; deliver me from the hands of my enemies, from those who pursue me. NIV

Faith is the process of being transformed from death in this current world system to life in Christ and the kingdom of God. Our spiritual death and resurrection frees us from the bondage of sin in our flesh which we had no control or authority over prior to Jesus’ deliverance. Now we are free from the spiritual grip sin had on us and we can now as an act of our will ask God to deliver us from the habits of sin that the body had become accustomed too. We are free to die to self, pride and the flesh to stop living for our own glory and live for God’s glory. We are free to love God and love others as image bearers of God.

Matthew 28: 18-20 Then Jesus came to them and said, All authority is heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. NIV

Everything God does is motivated by Love, it is Who He is, Agape love. God’s love story continues even after the rebellion and fall of mankind. God continues to express unconditional love, good will and wellbeing for mankind. God shows His love, commitment and faithfulness as a choice of His Divine will to restore mankind to his created purpose. Agape love is not shallow feelings of romance, it gives of itself to help and advance another. This is the love God has shown when He sent His Son to redeem us from the path we had chosen. God never lost sight of who we were created to be. He paid a price we were unable to pay so we could return to our original image and value in Him.

Every good love story has one who loves and one who is the beloved. Every good love story follows the example Jesus Himself set for His beloved bride and the love God showed for the whole world. Though mankind had turned their backs on God and rebelled against Him, His love for mankind was not changed. Love always allows the beloved a choice to come and accept him or depart and reject. Even in this God provides a way to deliver and rescue His beloved, Jesus, who loved us more than His own life on earth.

Mankind was in bondage and a slave to sin with no power or ability to free themselves from the condemnation and sin they were in. God had given all dominion to mankind and man gave this dominion and authority to God’s enemy. God would not violate His own principles so it would take a man to restore all mankind and this world to its original state. Jesus being God, set aside His rights of Divinity to become a man so that He could restore the rights of mankind to their original value and purpose, which is to look like and act like, God their Father.

What a love story! A Man gives up all He possesses to obtain His bride. Though she has been unfaithful and defiled herself, His love for her is greater than the state she had fallen into. Jesus became poor that we may receive His riches, Jesus was beaten and wounded that we could be healed, and Jesus was raised from the dead that we may have life eternal. Jesus paid it all and He lived this life on earth as a person, just as we are with the power of the Holy Spirit. We too have access and authority to and through the Holy Spirit. A love so deep and strong that it looks past our faults and sees our needs and provides for every need even at the cost of one’s own life.

God is a just God and sin cannot go unpunished. God does not wink at sin and look the other way. Sin cannot stand in the presence of the Holiness of God. The wrath and justice of God will consume sinful man who would try to come into the presence of God. Mankind had a debt that was impossible for him to pay. God’s love, His Agape love, would not leave us in our depraved state. Only God could pay the debt and man had to be punished for the rebellion, disobedience and sin. Jesus did not come because we were no good sinners. He came to take the sin off of us so we could become who we were created to be, children of God reproducing His love in the world.

God’s love is so deep, so profound, so everlasting He chose to bring us back to Himself. Though we fell from being His highest creation, God restored us to an even greater glory, to be children of God. What manner of love is this that we should be called sons of God? The world may call us many derogatory names, because they cannot see who we are in His Spirit and because they do not know Him or His love.

I John 3:1 Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.

God’s love is Holy and just, He punishes sin and becomes the justifier as He pays the debt owed. God’s love is always looking for the good will and wellbeing of all mankind. God shows His love, commitment and faithfulness in the love of Jesus. Jesus loved His bride and gave Himself for her, to bring her back to Himself.

Reflect on the Love that came to redeem, deliver and restore His beloved. Love came to set us free from the power of sin and death. Love came to reestablish us into the family of God, to provide for us as part of His royal family and to protect us from evil. Again, God’s love is unconditional love; He loves us regardless of our choices.

The gospel is a love story about God’s love for mankind and all His creation. This story begins with the Eternal God Jehovah; the Almighty God Who is Love, Holy and Who never changes. The Eternal and Infinite God is personified in the three; God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. He is a triune God as we are triune beings, body, soul and spirit.

God’s love story begins with the Triune God’s love overflowing from Himself to Himself; God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, all in perfect union, perfect love and perfect harmony. God in perfect love flowing from His Character of love reproduced Himself in the creation of mankind as another avenue to express Who He is, love. God said let us make man in our image and likeness. God made mankind in perfect love, for the purpose of displaying God’s love in this created natural world and universe, as He is the perfect love in the spirit and heavenly realm. Love overflowed from God to His creation the godman on the earth.

God the eternal, self-sufficient, Self-sustaining God, Who needs nothing outside of Himself, did not create man because He needed someone to love or worship Him. God was not on some ego trip to make mankind to have someone rule and serve Him, because God is without lack. God in His perfect love that flowed from Himself spilled over into mankind who was created in His image, to look like Him, act like Him and love like Him in this natural world. God created a tangible finite place within the spiritual infinite and eternal world for mankind to live and have dominion.

God’s love for us was established before He laid the foundation of the world. Each and every one of us was in the heart and mind of God even before He started creating the world. True love provides for the people they love. God began creating a world with water, food, shelter and provided for every need of those He created.

God created mankind in His image. The Eternal Loving God created for mankind a perfect life and a perfect world to be the expression of His love on the earth. This is why all mankind has a deep sense of true value and importance because we were created majestic, regal and royal with an eternal and ultimate purpose to look like God and express the love of God, agape love, in this world.

Every human being has a deep sense of dignity, value and purpose. Even those who were never taught about God in the natural sense know in their spirit they were created for a greater purpose; to worship, love and serve their Creator and not to just exist. All of nature is dependent on mankind as the crowning glory of God’s creation. Reflecting His image has a special dependence on our Creator to know Him that we may know ourselves.

When God created this world and everything that was in it, it was created good. This world was in perfect unity with God, its creator and this creation existed in harmony, perfect peace and wholeness. This is the love that flows from God, perfect and in oneness with itself. God is love and He loves all He created but to mankind God gave the ability to be like God. God’s love gave mankind sovereignty over his own will and the ability to choose life or reject it. God does not demand our love or our loyalty. God’s love for us allows all mankind the ability to choose to love Him or reject Him. True love does not enslave, it allows freedom of choice and is always ready to help, provide and protect those that call on Him.

This perfect world and perfect creation went into rebellion against God‘s love and chose to live under the authority of God’s enemy. The highest of God’s creation, who He loves and created to look like Him, turned from God and defected to become like the enemy of God, Satan. This rebellion threw the whole world into a state of darkness, chaos, hatred and sin. Mankind no longer looked like or acted like their Creator but became slaves to sin and death.

In one rebellious act all mankind became sinners by choice and by their natural bloodline. Adam took on the nature and attributes of God’s enemy and all born of Adam have that same nature. Everyone born is born with a sin disposition, character, personality and outlook. It is an inherited nature of sin that is displayed in the pride, self-centeredness with independence or rebellion against God’s truth.

Always remember God is love and God’s love is agape love, which is the expression of unconditional good will and wellbeing of another. Agape love is a commitment of faithfulness which is an act of the will not of feelings or romance. Agape love gives of itself for the benefit and advancement of another and that is the kind of Love God loves us with. God so loved the world He gave His Only Begotten Son for the betterment and improvement of all mankind from his fallen state of sin.

This is a guest writer. The information presented is so needed by the body of Christ I wanted to share it with everyone. Thank you CChioma7

God is so good! Thank you God for making us male and female in your image, for giving us purpose and identity that is sure regardless of time, place, or culture because you have redeemed us, you have bought us back from the grip of Satan and death, you have brought us back to original value. Thank you for answering the cry of my heart to know who I am as a woman. Thank for teaching me more and more about it every day. Thank you for being my Friend.

When I’d hear about biblical womanhood and manhood, I’d get frustrated because people would speak with such passion and excitement about manhood, and it did sound exciting. But the discourse on womanhood was woefully less-than-inspiring because much of it was wrapped up in “it’s all about your husband/family but you’re not guaranteed a husband/family”. *sigh* I heard a talk by Dan Mohler; he’s the first speaker that spoke about womanhood in a way that registered deep in my heart. And he suggested we go back and ask God to show us who we really are. And, in my frustration with books that turn worldly desires into “godly” principles and discourses that confuse womanhood with a set of roles informed by culture baptized in Christianese, I asked You Lord who I am. Low, and behold, You answered in Your Word and through Godly wisdom! God, why did I wait so long to ask You? Thank you for continually working with me.

We can be passionate about the principles of feminine identity. For one reason, every day women are living pale, frustrated lives – lost in lies about worth and value that have eternal implications. Our culture tells us that woman’s value is in attracting a man, or usurping a man, or dominating a man, or not needing a man; gratifying ourselves with a man, or gratifying ourselves without a man. We in the Church stand and point out that their ways are wrong; but, we, having Truth, do not offer it to them because we don’t understand it ourselves. We too are living less than our privilege. We offer to trade their lies for our own. There is a better way!

We in the Church have confused “roles” with “identity” in talking about womanhood. We emphasize responsibilities and tasks –things that can look different depending on context. But, true identity is steady and sure regardless of place, time, culture, or any other context. Identity is the foundational principle, it gets to the heart of the matter. The other things that people debate about sometimes come from people majoring in the secondary things, confusing application (which is informed by context) with the principle and not extending grace towards one another in humble personal application before God.
So, let’s get to it!
First, to find out who Woman is, we go to the source, the Word of our God. In Genesis God says it’s not good for man to be alone, that He would make a “helper comparable to him” (2:18-20). The word for help used in Hebrew is ezer and it’s used 20 other times. Each reference (Strong’s Concordance #5828), refers to the help that God is, the help God provides (3 times), or looking to someone else for help when we should be looking towards the Lord (2 times). It is deliverance in the time of trouble, life-sustaining, life-preserver help against enemies. So,
1) Woman is a life-saving, life-preserving, delivering presence and aid like God is but on Adam’s level

Adam didn’t need help because he was weak. He needed help because he was strong. Together in partnership, Adam and Eve were to subdue and steward the Earth. Though the garden was perfect, there was an enemy of their souls present – Satan. Now, “…though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him- a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12). God, Adam, and Eve made a very good threefold cord. But, Eve, who could have promoted Adam towards life, escorted him towards death. (Ladies, we have great power.) And Adam, who could have actively stood up for them both, passively stood by. Part of the curse that followed was that God would put “enmity between [Satan] and the woman, between [Satan’s] seed and her seed”(Gen 3:15). We only have to look at world history to notice how women are particular objects of oppression and violence and suffer greatly. (Side thought – could this be why women are known for being prayer warriors, because of prayer’s place in spiritual warfare and who we are?)
Our feminine essence and presence was distorted and thoroughly corrupted by the Fall. But God in His mercy bought it back! (Woo hoo!) Because of Christ we have redemption. And in Christ, we are life again instead of death. We can walk that way. As we receive the love God has for us we don’t have to try to be this way, we just are! As we shower in God’s love for us, life just flows from us. Just like waves ripple behind a hand that is sweeping through water, love and life ripple in our wake; it’s in our very essence!
Next, Apostle Paul mentions that man “is the image and glory of God, but woman is the glory of man” (1 Cor 11:7). What in the world does that mean? How can we be equal (“God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” [Gen 1:27]) and yet woman be the glory of man? Well, God is love; God is a relational triune being – Father, Son, and Spirit. When God made Adam, it was good, and Adam was created as the first image-bearer of God. “Glory” means the honor and display of something. Love is arguably the most important aspect of God’s essence and character. Now, if God is love, then His glory is shown through love. Adam could not display that really important aspect of God’s image without an equal to direct his love towards. Yes, Adam could love God by worshipping Him as his Source and All in All. But the Godhead shares beautiful, unique intimacy within the communion of 3 distinct Persons who are equally God. God wants us to experience loving communion with people as an outpouring of our love relationship with Him. We can’t display God’s image fully without loving others fellow human beings. Therefore, God created Eve so that Adam could love her and thus the glory of God be even more displayed. So,
2) Woman was created to receive love— to be lavished upon with love, receive that love, and from that love produce life. She is a love-receiver and love-responder and a life-bearer.
If I, as a woman, am a love-responder because I’ve received God’s love, then I am someone who engages people with love regardless of how they initiate with or respond to me. That gives me guidance to how to live regardless of if I am married or single; if I am at work as an employee or supervisor; if I am wife, sister, mother, daughter, or friend. If woman is love-responder and man is love-initiator, together they reflect the image of God beautifully.

​Next, Psalm 121 describes womanhood for us. Psalm 121? Yes, Psalm 121; I did not accidently mix it up with Proverbs 31. Proverbs 31 is wonderful, but Psalm 121 is a dissertation on the ezer that the Lord provides; verses 1-2 are the thesis, referring to the same word for help used in Genesis 2.
I will lift up my eyes to the hills—
From whence comes my help?
2 My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth.
3 He will not allow your foot to be moved;
He who keeps you will not slumber.
4 Behold, He who keeps Israel
Shall neither slumber nor sleep.
5 The Lord is your keeper;
The Lord is your shade at your right hand.
6 The sun shall not strike you by day,
Nor the moon by night.
7 The Lord shall preserve you from all evil;
He shall preserve your soul.
8 The Lord shall preserve your going out and your coming in
From this time forth, and even forevermore.
3) Woman is a keeper: she is an under-girder and a safe-keeper, a shade and a preserver. She
keeps confidence (rather than gossips). She keeps the heart and reputation of her loved ones. She speaks over people in a way that undergirds their God-given value, potential, and identity. When a woman is in her right mind (i.e. her renewed and born-again mind), as an under-girder, she sees people the way God sees them and gladly throws the weight of her life behind them. And, it simply reflects the nature of God. She could be a teacher pouring her heart into helping her students develop along the path God has for them. She could be a scientist whose passion is discovering compounds that could improve the lives of others. She could be a counselor who holds out a life-line of wisdom and encouragement to someone standing on the brink of despair. She could be a stay-at-home wife and mother who watches over her children while they sleep and encourages her husband.
As a safe-place for the hearts of others, she is trust-worthy. She does not gossip. Rather, she keeps the confidence of friends, husband, kids, and co-workers. She is not a “mean girl” who uses information as verbal capital against others. People’s hearts are safe with her. A woman who is truly accepts herself and has come into her own secure sense of identity creates a space of emotional ease and safety for those around her. She is like a comfy couch with plenty of room – because she is at ease with herself, others can be at ease with themselves around her. People can breathe at peace around her. She is comforting shade when there is sun beating down all around. She is a preserver. She can preserve life – be it as a nurse who stands in the gap in the ICU, a mom who speaks life over her kids when they’ve been bullied, a business leader who advocates for healthy team dynamics, or a wife who upholds her husband’s name. Her husband can trust her with his household and the family’s mission; she will not bring him down in dishonor (like Deliliah) but will safe-keep and promote the welfare of their family’s name and their home.

Finally ladies…
A love-receiver, a love-responder, and a life-bearer. A life-saving, life-preserving, delivering presence and aid. A keeper, an under-girder, a safe-place, a shade, and a preserver. Ladies, this is who we are. We don’t have to try to be this; we ARE this. It’s in our inherent feminine nature. Let’s take off the shackles of guilt and performance expectations of specific tasks/roles, and let’s submit to Him as He works it out in us according to His delightful ways. We each uniquely reflect feminine aspects of God. To operate against our nature, we would have to go out of our way OR be impaired by hurts, deception, or perversion of this world (which is too often the case). God is glad about our diversity, both within our gender and between the genders. So, let’s bathe everyday in the love of God for us, let Him heal the wounds. Let’s not debate secondary things. And, let’s extend grace to one another as the family of God. We will become more of who we really are, and everyone will be blessed.

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